Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis
Telehealth Practice in New York City
While it may appear that I have a large number of specialties, at heart, all of these issues have a typical, central core feature: SHAME. I feel I am an especially good fit for patients who are struggling with shame or shame-based issues. Given the taboos of our culture, sexual minorities are one group of people prone to developing feelings of shame as a result of living in a non-validating culture. I am LGBTQIA+ and kink affirmative, and work with individuals in a variety relationship types: monogamous relationships, open relationships, polyamorous relationships, as well as other configurations.
Many people feel shame for other reasons: divergence from their religious expectations, needing accommodations for physical illness, and even those who feel that they have not been able to benefit from prior mental health treatment.
Self-compassion is an important element of my work. While older and more pop-psychology notions of self-esteem are still commonplace in our culture, “developing” self-esteem is often problematic. Self-esteem is often developed based on facets of life beyond our direct control. More important to many people is self-compassion: feeling the ability to feel kindness and acceptance of one’s self - including the good and the bad. Accepting one’s self in totality and cultivating an attitude of self-kindness and self-awareness can strengthen our bond with humanity by connecting us with central human themes of struggle, triumph, challenge, and success. By connecting with our humanity through self-compassion, we move beyond the more limited notions of self-esteem that are commonplace.
Todd Anderson, PhD, PsyD, LP
Gay men face a number of stressors in our society that require special attention in the context of psychotherapy. These stressors can range from coming out of the closet to facing internalized homophobia.
Some individuals have sought therapy for feelings - often vague and unclear - that are painful for many years and perhaps from many therapists. I am a good fit for such individuals and have often been able to bring clarity to individuals who have faced confusion about their pain for decades.
The idea of "sex addiction" is becoming more prominent in our culture. Out-of-control sexual behavior is often a symptom of other intimacy concerns and represents the individual's best attempts, however problematic, to get their needs met.
Those leaving religious communities can face painful feelings of rejection and identity crises. Those who have suffered from trauma from those who hold positions of power in religious institutions often feel guilt, confusion, and other painful and confusing feelings about their experience.
Many medical illnesses can impact mental health. Understanding the interplay between the body and mind, a comprehensive course of psychotherapy must attend to the mutual impact that mental and physical health have on one another.
Individuals involved in BDSM/Kink practices, as well as individuals of other sexual minorities, require the support and assistance of a therapist who understands and affirms diversity of sexual expression.
Many women who have trouble feeling empowered and fulfilled in romantic relationships can benefit from a psychotheraputic relationship with a safe and supportive man to explore their concerns. I am able to provide such a safe environment for this exploration.